Esikwenzayo
Ukuthethelela & Ukubuyisana
Ukuthethelela & Ukubuyisana
Amaphrojekthi
Lapho kungekho khona ukuthethelelwa, amanxeba awapholi
Ukuthethelela kuyindaba enzima. Ngokuvamile abantu bayabuza: Kungani kufanele ngithethelele? Ngingathethelela kanjani? Kuyini ukubaluleka kokuthethelela esimweni sokungqubuzana okuqhubekayo? Buyini ubudlelwano phakathi kokuthethelela nobulungiswa? Uma ngithethelela, ingabe ngiyazivumela izenzo ezingalungile futhi ngizivumele ziqhubeke?
'Ukungaxoleli' sekuhlanganiswe nesiko, isiko, imibono. Kubizwa ngokuthi ukuziphindiselela; iso ngeso; izingwadule nje; tit for tat; inkokhelo; vendetta. Ngenxa yalokho, singagcina sizihlukanisa nabantu esibathandayo, umndeni, abangani. Ngezinga elikhulu, singagcina sesithethelela ukubulala ngezinga elincane noma elikhulu, silungise amaphuzu amakhulu eminyaka ubudala. Kubhekwa njengokulungile, inkambo yesenzo ehloniphekile. Nokho, abeluleki abashonelwe bavame ukubonisa ukuthi lapho umuntu esondela okhukhweni lokufa, ngokuvamile ukwesaba kwabo okukhulu akubona ubuhlungu obungokomzimba, kodwa ngokomzwelo. ubuhlungu balokho abangakwazi ukukuxazulula, baxolele, bayeke. Kubonakala sengathi, isifica sonke ekugcineni.
Akudingekile ukuthi sihlale sivaliwe esikhathini esidlule. Kukhona indlela - indlela yokuzibuyisela ebuntwini bethu bemvelo, lapho singathola khona ukuqonda, ububele, ithemba lekusasa, nokukhululwa kweqiniso ezibophweni zesikhathi esedlule, noma ngabe sidinga ukuzithethelela, noma ukuthethelela abanye.
Izinsika Eziyisi-7 Zokuthethelela
Umbuzo ovame ukubuzwa, uthi, “Ngiluqala kanjani ngempela uhlelo lokuthethelela? Ingabe zikhona izinto ezingokoqobo engingazenza?” Izinsika Eziyisi-7 Zokuqonda, Inkululeko, Isixazululo, Imfudumalo, Ukuthuthukisa, Ithemba Nokuqhubeka, I-Feminenza idale izindlela ezingokoqobo, izinyathelo zangempela ezingathathwa, ukusiza abantu abavela kuzo zonke izizinda ukuhamba endleleni yokuthola indlela engcono. Iyabona ukuthi ukuthethelela kuwuhambo, nokuthi inqubo ihlukile kumuntu ngamunye. Kungaba mfishane noma kube yinde. Kungathatha izinsuku ezimbalwa noma impilo yonke. Akudingeki 'uthethelele'. Kunezinto ongeke uzixolele. Uhlelo lwe-Feminenza luhlinzeka ngamathuluzi, uma ufisa ukuhamba ngaleyo ndlela. Ingabe umuntu, ngokwesibonelo, ulithuthukisa kanjani ikhono lokukhulula ubuhlungu obuhlobene nenkumbulo? Noma umuntu uqala kanjani ukuqonda lokho ngaphezu kwezenzo zabo zamanje futhi umuntu umehlukanisa kanjani umuntu esenzweni, ukuze nikwazi ukuqhubeka nobabili? Kungenzeka kanjani, ngempela, ukudedela izinhlungu okwedlule futhi siqhubekele phambili esikhathini esizayo?
Izinsika eziyisi-7 zinikeza ukufinyelela okujulile emandleni ethu okuthethelela, ngakho-ke sidlulele ngale kwendlela yobuhlungu, ukuziphindiselela noma udlame.
Feminenza Workshops
1. Imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi ngokuthethelela
Imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi yokuthethelela iyatholakala njengamanje, uma iceliwe, e-USA, Canada, Denmark, Norway, Holland, Germany, United Kingdom, Ireland, Greece, Turkey, Israel naseKenya.
Izibonelo zalokhu yilezi:
Uchungechunge lwemihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi yosuku olungu-1 olwanikezwa abesifazane abangenamakhaya Ohlelweni Lwabesifazane Lwe-Cascade e-Seattle, Washington, North America
Imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi ngezinsika eziyisi-7 njengengxenye yesifundo sonyaka ongu-1 ngendima yokuthethelela Emhlanganweni Wezemfundo, yothisha baseGordon Teachers Training College e-Haifa, kwa-Israel.
Imihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi njengengxenye ebalulekile yoHlelo Lobuholi Babesifazane Abancane lweminyaka emibili ePeekskill, eNew York.
Ama-workshops osuku olu-1 kubantu besifazane ababaleki e-Denmark
2. Ama-workshops njengengxenye ye-Trauma Healing
Le workshop inikezwe ngempumelelo emaqenjini nasemiphakathini eye yabhekana nezingxabano ezinzima nodlame futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ibithwele lezi zinkinga ngaphakathi kwayo iminyaka eminingi, kwesinye isikhathi amashumi eminyaka.
Ifundisa ababambiqhaza ukuthi:
Qonda Izindlela Zokuthethelela kanye nendima yazo ekunciphiseni i-PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
Shiya okwedlule ngemuva
Zisuse bona kanye nabanye kude nomjikelezo wodlame, 'ngokwenza omunye umuntu'
Khulisa ukuzwelana nokuqondana, yakha ukwethembana
Inqubo yokuthethelela isiza ababambiqhaza ukuba babhekane, isibonelo, izindaba ezijulile zobuhlungu, ukulinyazwa, amahloni kanye nomuzwa wecala, ukuzibheka ngendlela entsha, okwenza umhlanganyeli akwazi ukuzidedela, abuyekeze indaba abazitshela yona, ukukhetha phila esikhathini samanje nesizayo, hhayi esikhathini esedlule.
Ukukwazi ukuthethelela abanye
Abahlanganyeli abezwe ubuhlungu, ukukhashelwa, mhlawumbe ebuhlotsheni obuphukile, noma ngisho nokuhlukumezeka okwedlulele ezandleni zabanye - ukudlwengulwa, ukuhlushwa, ukulahlwa - bavame ukuzwakalisa ushintsho olukhulu ekupheleni kwe-workshop - kusukela kokuthi 'Angisoze ngaxolela' ukuthi 'ukuthethelela kuyisenzo sokunika amandla, ngifanele ukuze ngikhululeke ukuze ngiphile impilo yami futhi.'
Ukukwazi ukuzixolela
Ngokuvamile ababambiqhaza bazizwa benesibopho, ngokufanelekile noma ngokungalungile, ngokulimaza abanye, kanye nokuba izisulu ngokwabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwesilinganiso, kungenzeka ukuthi bamane benza ukukhetha okungekuhle esikhathini esithile ekuphileni kwabo, okube nemiphumela ebuhlungu. indima, ngokuzithandela noma ngokungafuni, yokuba umenzi wobugebengu owenza izenzo zobudlova (isb endaweni yempi) - ngakho-ke kanye nokukwazi ukuthethelela abanye, ukuzithethelela nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo nakho kuyindaba enkulu okufanele ilungiswe._cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b -136bad5cf58d_ Yilokho ochwepheshe abazokukhomba njengokulimala kokuziphatha: "ukwenza, ukwehluleka ukuvimbela, ukufakaza, noma ukufunda ngezenzo ezeqa izinkolelo ezigxilile zokuziphatha nezilindelwe". Ngokuphambene ne-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, ebangelwa ukwesaba, ukulimala ngokokuziphatha kuwukwephula lokho ngamunye wethu akubheka njengokulungile noma okungalungile. Kufana nokulimala emphefumulweni, okufana nosizi noma usizi, okunomthelela ohlala njalo kubantu ngabanye nasemindenini yabo.
3. Ukuqeqeshwa Komsebenzi Wokuthethelela
Ukuba Umeluleki/Umsebenzi Wokuthethelela kuhilela inqubo yesitifiketi futhi kuwukuqeqeshwa okuyingqayizivele kwengqondo, inhliziyo kanye nentando. Abesifazane namadoda bayaqeqeshwa bese befundiswa ngabanye ukuze basungule iphrojekthi emphakathini wabo, engasukela ekubambeni iqhaza ekuqedeni izingxabano nodlame, ukusebenza namantombazane noma abesifazane abahlukumezekile, ukusiza. Intsha esengozini, ekusunguleni indima indima yokuthethelela kwezemfundo noma ingemuva. Kungumsebenzi womuntu ojulile.
Ubufakazi
Abakushoyo
Amagridi namasu ahlinzekwa esifundweni abewusizo kakhulu ngoba ayasebenza futhi ngingawasebenzisa empilweni yami. Isibonelo, 'ungabamba kanjani okuhle kakhulu komunye kuwe' - le nqubo yaba yisambulo kimi ngoba ngiwuzwe kaningi lo musho, kodwa angikaze ngicabange ukuthola iqhinga, nendlela ethathwe phakathi nesifundo inikwe amandla. ngenze lokhu ngokuphepha nangempumelelo enkulu.
Ezikhathini lapho ukungqubuzana kwase kuzokwenzeka noma kuqale ukufika - okuthile kungibambe futhi kwangikhumbuza ngalokho engikubiza ngakho manje, imilayezo yesimo sengqondo sokuthethelela. Ngakho-ke kunokuqwashisa okwengeziwe ngendawo ongabuka kuyo ukuphila, njengokuthi kunamehlo amaningi abheka isimo.
Ngabona ukuthi nginezimfanelo eziningi futhi lapho ngibheka zonke lezi zimfanelo, ukwesaba kwami kwabonakala kuncane kakhulu kimi.